Monday, December 1, 2008

I've lost a MILO!

I don't even know why I promise to write sooner on this blog!!! I've given up trying to keep up. I'm just to busy this year! Classes, Egan and Milo with school stuff....holidays....oy!! So, I will write/type when I can....not that there are a lot of you waiting impatiently for me to post though! lol!
Ok, so I'm going to get personal for a bit.....it's taken me along time to decide if this was something I was going to post about.....so, I've decided it's time. I've lost a MILO...meaning.....Mr. Milo weighs in at 33 lbs....and that is what I've lost...a total of 33 lbs!! What is remarkable to me is how great I feel!! I have so much more energy....have more 'bounce' to my step...and when I stepped on the scale the other morning, Milo stood on it next and I realized I've lost a MILO...lol Pretty cool since I pick him up and realized I was carrying that around with me 24/7! good grief Charlie Brown! So, I'm down 3 pant sizes and have to say it's awesome!!! I've gotten hand me downs from a co worker that has been losing weight ahead of me...and that woman can shop! These clothes are better than what I had to begin with...Talbots, Liz Claiborne, J. Jill etc...so, it's like Christmas...but cheaper! lol! So, I don't know what my next goal will be....this goal has been completed....30lbs in 3 months. I'm trying for littler goals so I won't be overwhelmed by the big picture. It's fun though because my mom and I can almost share clothes again....not quite pants but tops/sweaters etc. We used to be able to do this and also with my sister. But before she passed away, she lost about 50 lbs so I couldn't fit into anything then except shoes and purses....lol! So, there it is, out in the open...can't take it back.
On another note...Christmas is fast approaching! Can you believe another is almost gone??!! YIKES!! Dan and the boys put up our Christmas tree yesterday after the family came over for Eric's birthday dinner...Yep, I MADE IT!!! Not dan....though, he did make the chocolate mayonaise cake...but I did the WHOLE dinner...don't sound so shocked...I made HOMEMADE mashed potatoes last week and DAN said they were quite GOOD!! So, there! My grams has a hard time believing this...but tis true!! My little brother turned 27!!! Do you know what that means???? I'll be 37 next week! How does that happen??? MIDDLE AGE...yes, I had to mention that AGAIN...I'm ok with it I guess, not that I have a choice or anything.....but it is what it is...right?? dang....when did I grow up?? or maybe I should say get older....some may say that I still haven't grown up!
Ok, I got off on a tangent...Christmas...my shopping is almost complete!! Eric went with me on Saturday to get the 'big' gift for Egan....So, there are 2 other 'little' things I need to get plus Milo's gift....He is in love with Thomas the Train...thanks to my friend Natalie. He kiddos have the train set and when we were there a few weeks ago. I swear he gets up everyday asking to go to 'aunt natalie's' house! it's cute! So, now I'm on the hunt for a train set! I think he'll be soo excited!! I love Christmas when they're little like Milo and Egan. So pleased withwhatever you give them!!! I'm thinking Egan will be pretty geeked as well! Dan and I decided to keep it simple this year. Only a few gifts....3 to be exact....I got this idea from Natalie....ya know....focus on Jesus' birthday with 3 gifts... anyway, we thought it would be great to do. Especially since we're in need of a new vehicle for Dan....so, we are trying to save some $$. Not that we've ever went overboard for Christmas. We were never spoiled like that (from our PARENTS) on Christmas...and I never seemed deprived! lol.
So, that is life in a nutshell right now. We have my cousin's wedding this coming Saturday so the boys (all 3) will be going to aunt lindsays for the day/nite....they are super excited about being spoiled! lol Then the next weekend, the boys have their overnite at Grandma in the gray house for Polar Express nite...it's a tradition for all the BOYS to come and stay the nite and watch Polar Express. This year grandma said she'd love to take Milo too! YAhoo!!! FREE NITE!!!! lol! Then the boys will have their Christmas program at school/church. Egan is going to be an angel...grandma is making the costume, Milo will be singing with his class (cute!!!) and Jonathon is singing 'in the background' so he says.... the school is doing a play and the 2nd graders are the ones singing. Its' always a great program!!
Ok, now, really, I think that is all!!
Toodles!

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Happy 31st Melissa Jo!

Wow....Melissa would be 31 today...and probably freaking out too....(that part makes me smile!) Oh boy...do I miss her so incredibly much!! She drove me crazy....but I loved her completely! She will always be my little sis...my mom bought balloons today for the boys to bring to the cemetery. They got to put a balloon for Meliss and for laney....except Milo's "dora" balloon went up to visit Alana in heaven. Soon as the door to the van opened....out it went! He was very disappointed...but when I told him it was going to heaven he nodded and said "with Jesus and auntie jo"...break my heart! Though it does warm my heart to know that he knows who Meliss and Laney are! He points them out in pictures. Meliss used to call Milo her Cabbage Patch baby...when she first laid eyes on him, she giggled and said he looks like a cabbage patch and his name is just like a cabbage patch too! Though she only knew Milo for 9 short weeks, she loved him to pieces! Always holding him and squeezing him and kissing him! I will forever cherish those moments!
We went to dinner tonite with the 'family'. My family and inherited family. My brothers friends and Kareem and his family. IT's always nice to be with them on such occasions! It's always a hard day. I find myself crabby and short of patience. Usually with a headache for whatever reason. Today was really no different. My friend emailed me today and said she was thinking of me and wondered if it gets any easier...she lost her father a few short months ago....and sadly, no, it doesn't get easier. In some ways it gets harder and harder. But God's GRACE is sufficient for us all! HE promises that! And when life has been thrown to pieces, and you only have HIM....His Grace....is overwhelmingly enough!!!
People still ask how we've done it....done what? having our feet hit the ground every morning...going through your routine....? That's the easy part. LOving someone or the plural form thereof..is the hardest of all!!! And again, when you lean on God....there is only HIS way! The only way!
God never promised us an easy life....but he did promise us eternal life...so, if I can get through THIS life, I've got it made in the shade when the time comes!
Happy Birthday sweet daring meliss!!! I love you like frogs love flies!!!

Monday, September 22, 2008

School, Soccer.....Fall!!!!!

I know, I know....I tell myself I'm going to get better at this bloggin' thing...then life happens....ya know how it is!!! I'm seriously trying NOT to go too crazy with schedules trying to work together...but Fall...I LOVE IT...so much I got married in the fall...almost 10 yrs. ago!!!! (Oct 10 will be the 10th anniversary for Dan and I)!!
Here's the thing....you get all these awesome gifts and cards for showers and wedding gifts...then 10 years down the line....the sheets are REALLY thinning out....the glasses have been broken one by one....the awesome salad bowls/pasta bowls etc....are chipped and really, we use these things once/twice a year...and they take up ALOT of space!!! Recently...my sister in law and I (they just celebrated #10 in August...yes, it was a busy year then too!!LOL) and we were thinking that we should "invent" showers for married couples at 10/20/25 etc years.....It really makes sense if you think about it....in this day in age it seems like everyone knows someone who has been divorced or going through it currently...so why not celebrate the happy..."I'm gonna stick with it" married couples? Ya know...the stuff you don't want to buy...but you really need...towels, sheets etc.....See, it does make sense doesn't it...?!? Anyway, believe it or not, that is not why I decided to post...I was going to tell you about my boys 1st day of school!!
Egan....3rd grader...holy cow...when/how did that happen...freaks me out....then MILO....PRESCHOOL.....dang...how the heck??? We decided at the last minute to send him to SSPP preschool 2 afternoons a week...for a few reasons...mainly...it's was A LOT less expensive than childcare!!!! YIKES! and the fact that this preschool...at the same school Jonathon and Egan go to....has Preschool in the pm....so, Tues/Thurs he goes to school...mondays, memaw and pawpaw (my parents) watch the monkey man and Wed...I LEAVE EARLY!!!! and Fridays...I"m home...PERFECT!!! Plus the fact that it's a structured environment and I LOVE Mrs. Gage..his teacher....the funny thing.....there are only 3 boys in the class...no girls...I don't think this is such a good thing however, since he listens to Egan and JB WAY too much...and he says "Girls are GROSS...except you mom!!" Gee thanks...lol! But the other 2 little boys and Milo are sooo dang cute!!! and naughty...but either they are scammin' the teacher already (which REALLY is possible for these little guys) or they just know how to behave when mom and dad aren't around...b/c his teacher says each day I pick him up...Oh...I just love these boys...they are so sweet and innocent...just look at them!! HA! HA! DOUBLE HA! All these boys have older brothers....and I KNOW the older brothers....however, I do tend to exaggerate....(it's true...just ask my parents!!) and they really are adorable little monkeys and so dang cute!!!
Egan is doing very well so far...needs help in math..but I'm working with him everynite with some things...and he's very eager to learn! Thank goodness!! He has the same teacher as last year...(eye roll) but...i'm TRYING to stay positive and I'm working in the room 1 Friday a month...doing crafty things...imagine that! LOL! His teacher is preggo and due on valentines day...it's her 1st baby..so we'll see how this goes....I'm optimistic!!! Really...I AM!!!
Well, my little brother's friend.....(also named Eric..the boys call him MR. Turtle..though, I HAVE NO idea why....) got married last weekend!! Eric was one of two best men....and he cleans up soo good!! hehehe...actually, minus their beer guts, which their tux's did a good job hiding I might add, they all looked handsome. Then we had some time before the reception....so my dad asked us to the 'club'....the VFW hall...total trip...HOWEVER....CHEAP drinks and MASSIVE alcohol in them...to bad I'm not the drinker I USED to be....(Don't laugh...I'm not..REALLY!!) Except for that particular evening....I got a little carried away....I had 2 Captain/D.cokes...and my poor mother had to go with me to the restroom!! OY! Then we decided, I'd had enough...and my dad tell Dan...."Ahh...you better go get a cheeseburger in her!" I was thinking more like coffee...but hey...whatever works! LOL! We nixed the drive-thru...and my parents went to the reception for dinner and we joined them later...for "Cocktails"...the bride and grooms way of saying...we can't fit everyone in the hall for dinner!! hehehe...so we went to Sundance Grill...just fyi....go their for Breakfast...skip the dinner....it wasn't horrible, but their breakfasts ROCK!!! Dan had a beer...I had coffee....then we went to PARTY!!! oh...I mean the reception...hehehe....I don't know why I felt compelled to TRY to keep up with the young ones...ya know...bride/groom...their friends...all 10 years younger than me!! Hello!!! Earth to Nicole...guess I was just enjoying the moment....date nite with Dan....no kids, all dressed up...etc...that's my excuse anyway! BUT.....Hangovers....last way to long when your getting old!!! Giminy Crickets! I felt like crap the next day...ALL DAY!!
Which brings me to the next topic....Hey, don't complain about this being so long...you can stop reading at ANY TIME!!! geesh...anyway...I'm 36yrs old...no reason to hide from it....I don't think I look 36, not that I know what that does look like....and we all know I don't ACT 36...but technically...i'm 36!!! Is this middle age??? I think it is....36x2=72...and frankly, that's old....1/2 of 36 is 18...and well, that's young....therefore...MIDDLE AGE....again, I SAY, HOW THE HECK DID THAT HAPPEN???? OY! I've heard talks about our 20 yr renunion....that just sounds..well...OLD!!! My uncle, who is a very wise man, and I really enjoy asking him questions along these lines...as well as what is the difference between 2nd cousins and 1st cousins 2nd removed...he had an answer to that too...but I'm not all to sure he sold me on it..but he ACTED like he knew what he was talking about...and that, quite frankly, is enough for me!! LOL! Love ya Unc Doug!! ANYWAY, he said 36 is like the old 24...YOUNG..not middle aged....I like this thought, so I'm going to go with it...whether or not I truly believe it...he is a wise man...so anyway, I guess it's all relative...hmm...still pondering that I suppose!
Well, I'm taking online classes....and I want to be done...however, being the slacker I am...Dan says I'm not a slacker, I just have too much on my plate...you pick....I HAVE TO FILE AN EXTENSION....for the price of $75.00...I am a DORK!!! I'm soo mad at myself....so I'm hoping with the fact I have to dig deep into my pockets (that's a lot of Starbucks that I CANNOT get know...dangit!!) that this will be my 'wake up call' so to speak...and get my butt in gear! On that note, I have an exam to take tonite....cuz all the sudden, I"m working EVERY nite on it! Go figure!
So ta ta for now....

Monday, August 18, 2008

Where does the time go??

Geesh, I keep thinking I need to post about Egan's birthday...which was July 31!!! And then about camping......Yikes! The time has gone by way to fast!!! I;m going to try my hand at a slide show so stay posted for some fun summer pics!! We had a blast camping at Cran Hill Ranch!! There is no better place to camp when you have little ones!! Awesome!!! We made Tye Dye tshirts, the boys had a kid campfire with silly songs, game time every morning and pony rides...and don't forget ICE CREAM EVERY DAY!!! One day we even had it for lunch!!! You gotta see Milo's face with his Chocolate Ice Cream!! It's hilarious!!! Egan and Jonathon were ready to head home after the week was over, but both said they had a great time!!! They learned how to float, swim underwater and jumped of the dock!!!! They are getting older now!! Egan is just acting and looking more grown up...he insists it's because he is now 8 years old!

We are done shopping for school supplies but I need him to try on his uniform pants to see how much he's grown over the summer! If eating is any indication, we're in trouble! lol! Egan is having a countdown to when school starts....2 weeks, 1 day! Yahoo!!!! (I am SOOO ready for more structure for the boys!!!) Our next obstacle (if you want to call it that) is finding another childcare for Milo 4 afternoons a week....He's been going to the childcare at St. Al's, but with the schools merging, so is childcare, so it won't be as convenient....So, he'll either be going to the combined childcare or I'm hoping a lady in the neighborhood has an opening! Say a prayer!!

All in all, things are crazy but good!!! One of my dear friends and I were talking the other day about contentment and how some people really never seem content in their lives.......and I've been pondering those thoughts....and realized...I AM CONTENT!!! It's an awesome feeling once you realize it! God has answered prayers and we now have a 'new normalacy' and though there will always be bumps in the road.......life is good right now! My job is going better.....(it helps to go on vacation, then my boss has to do my job, and realizes everything I do!! hehehe). The boys are growing up quickly but I wouldn't change or add anything to it! It's been a wonderful summer too!! Lots of fun things for the kid to do too! We've done many 'little' things throughout the summer so they have had lots of fun!

Dan and Egan rode their bikes to Grandma and Grandpa in the gray house on the Kent Trails last week. They had a great time! Egan rode his NEW bike we got him for his birthday. Milo ended up napping at home so we met them there then I was kind enough to give them a ride home! hehehe....I'm nice that way! lol!

Dan went Kayaking yesterday with his buddies. It used to be just a 'guy thing'.....that's what I was told many moons ago....but now, I don't know if these guys are softening up or not, but more women have been going. So, here's the dilemma I have.....He has had many a story about the Pine RIver and how fast it is, and he got caught up in a limb and tipped over (yes, there is beer involved!!) and the stories go on and on....well, because he's talked so dramatically about it, I have NO desire to go with him and his buddies and their spouses down a fast paced river and listening to everyone tell stories and drink.....Give me a good book and a fire and I'll stay at the campground....or better yet, I'll stay home with the kids and he gets away for an evening! He said he really wants me to go next year.....UGH!!! I may have to go one of these years, have a miserable time and then he won't ask me again.....or maybe I go and I have a great time?!?! One never knows in these situations! I do like (certain) adventures...hiking, kayaking (in a CALM lake or river), I really want to skydive someday, which I know sounds CRAZY that I'd want to do that but not kayak on a stupid river.....I'm just neurotic sometimes, I KNOW that is a huge surprise for those of you that know me even a little bit! LOL!

Speaking of my neurosis.....I had a 'suspicious lesion' on my leg that has been bothering me so when I was last at the doctor, I asked him about it and he thought we should get it removed then send it out for a biopsy. It's doubled in size in the last few months, so I was concerned about it....but MY major concern....STITCHES!!! Silly....I KNOW.....but still......a concern! I'm such a woose (sp) when it comes to that sort of thing!!! That's me....not worried about it actually being removed but the STITCHES!!! UGH! My poor doctor, my poor husband! Thankfully they both know me pretty well and just tell me I'm crazy! So, I have 5 stitches in my leg, just below my knee. ANd I begged for him to put disolvable stitches in....I asked him why they just don't do disolvable stitches on everyone, make the world a better place...ya know, like how they now have self adhesive stamps....how much better is life now with that...huh? So, you obviously see what I'm saying here.....but just to let you know...I think he was trying to tell my that he's the doc and I'm the (neurotic) patient...and that is not how it's done! I actually thought he just might put the disolvable stitches in just to shut me up...but NOOOOOO....meany!! So, now we will be camping up at the family farm with all of Dan's family and I'm supposed to have them removed on Saturday...convient?? NO!~ Luckily I have a brother in law that LOVES to do that kind of stuff, and he's an EMT, so, I lucked out...actually, the doc did...now Todd has to listen to me whine!!
So, tonite we are heading to the Hudsonville Fair to see my cousin show his pigs for the last time ever!!! He's graduated now so this is his last summer in the 4H or whatever it's called! the boys will have fun seeing gramma great and all the animals, and I think it's great b/c I don't have to make dinner!! Yahoo for me!! lol!
Stay tuned for a slide show......(one of these days!!)

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

butterflies







We witnessed one of God's most awesome miracles last week! The boys were over at my aunt and uncle's with Dan a little while ago and they found many caterpillars on some milk weeds....so, my aunt gave the boys this 'house' for caterpillars, frogs or the like and brought home a 'pet' and 4 big milk weed leaves. It managed to escape once but left us a trail of 'poo' to find it....it ate all 4 leaves in less than 24 hours...so, Dan traveled back to the milk weed plants and got more food for it....but by the evening, it was hanging upside down, getting ready for it's next stage...the chrysalis...by morning, it had totally covered itself with the chrysalis and it had these gold jewels on it too! It was truly amazing!! I didn't get any pictures of it during this stage b/c of the 'home' it was in, I wasn't able to get any good ones.....so then we waited.....11 days.....and last Sunday, the chrysalis was turning blue then clear and you could see the monarch's wings.....Have I mentioned how awesome this experience was for ME as well as the kids?! I mean, we all know caterpillars turn into butterflies and yeah, yeah, it's a miracle...blah blah...right? WRONG! Seriously, think about this....how amazing it is for a simple little caterpillar (though, this caterpillar was quite BIG), knows when the time is right and cocoons itself...how does that happen?? MIRACLES! Everyday around us! So, If I can figure out how to post some pictures, I'll post them of a brand new beautiful butterfly...we had so much fun watching it flutter it's wings for the first time!! It hung out with us for quite some time and some neighbors came over and watched in amazement with us! Milo was totally in awe as was Egan....Milo wanted to keep it! and was very disappointed when we came home later in the day and it was gone! This has reminded me of all of God's wonders and has made me stop to notice them! We all need to step back sometimes and 'smell the flowers'. Something that my kid's are really good at and drives me nuts at times...especially when we are running late!

The other most awesome thing that happened while the butterfly was 'sleeping'....I FOUND MY WEDDING RING!!!!! YAHOOO!!!! It had been missing since before Christmas...I have looked HIGH AND LOW for this thing!! And sure enough, I looked in this little Willow Tree box that has some little things of the girls in there...bracelet, lip gloss of laney's etc...and then I saw it....something gold that caught my eye....I'll be dog goned!!!!!! It was pretty tarnished....but MY ring!! Dan was VERY excited....he was really bummed when I lost it. and part of my guilt for losing it was seeing how bummed he was about it. It made me sick to think that it might really be gone! But, it's not!! Yahoo! So, we went to the mall and got it cleaned and now it's like I have a brand new ring!!

Well that is all for now....can you believe it? It's not the novel it usually is....hehehe.
I'm off work today and the older boys just got back from our church....VBS this week!

Friday, July 11, 2008

"most awsomest day"

That is a quote directly from Egan...It was last Friday (July 4) when we went to the Battle Creek Air Show. We decided late Wednesday that since both Dan and I had the day off...(I took the day off b/c we had childcare issues with childcare being closed the week of the 4th...then low and behold my wonderful husband told me he was off on Thursday...but that's a WHOLE different story!). We thought it would be fun especially for Milo (who adores planes and anything else in the air) to have a little fun away from home. So, we left for Battle Creek after my brother brought the boys home from the movies (and that also, is a story in and of itself!!) We decided not to tell them where we were going, because Egan is such a busy body and always asks questions to which is NONE of his business....so, of course, Egan could hardly contain himself at NOT knowing what was going on...hehehe. The balloon show was thursday evening with a balloon illume at nite, which I thought sounded really cool....so we hung out watching about 50 balloons in the sky and trying to find it's match in the book from the air show...ate an expensive, yet crappy dinner at the fair and watched some boys do their stunts on motorcycles...which ya gotta wonder, what do their poor mothers think?? This was scary stuff for me to watch...I had to keep turning away for fear that they were going to make acrash landing!!! The boys thought it was the coolest thing!! I was outvoted for the balloon illume (which was the first outvoting of many to occur over the course of our 'vacation') and the boys decided it would be more fun to go swimming at the pool than watch balloons at nite....so off we went to the hotel and swam ourlittle hearts out! The idea for Friday was to go to Binder Park Zoo for the day since we were down there anyway, and we have a zoo pass, and I LOVE binder park zoo! However, once again, I was outvoted and we went to the air show instead, which probably, actually I KNOW it cost a lot more than the zoo would have...but, so be it....it was a beautiful day, no humidity, lots of sun but not to hot.....it was the 'most awesomest day'! However, sitting on the ground from 10 am til 5pm watching things overhead.....was not really my cup of tea, but it was enjoyable....I brought a good book and read alot and Milo ended up taking a nap just before the Thunderbirds were about to take flight...which was THE reason the boys wanted to go to the air show...(FYI, when I say 'boys', I include Dan as well...hehehe). And Milo had about had it by this time with the noise of the air crafts! Ear plugs to the rescue!!! That is when Egan hugged dan and I and said it was the 'most awesomest day' EVER!! SIMPLE.....INEXPENSIVE, yet AWESOME!!! These are the things which memories are made!! Who says they need disney world or ultimate vacations.....KISS....Keep It Simple, Stupid!! LOVE that saying, b/c when you think about it...it really is the simple things in life that are truly the best!!
Egan said to me the other day (before the air show) that he thought it would be fun for each of us to pick a vacation each year then we go on that vacation....he was polite and said, since I'm a girl, I could go first. I told him that was a great idea, however, I told him that unfortunately, some vacations cost a lot of money, which we don't have.......I asked him what he wanted to do if he could choose and do you know what he said....he wanted to go to the ranch that we went to last year with the horses and ice cream place... again I say...SIMPLE!!! I was about blown over since he always talks about the "Nickelodeon Hotel". When I told him we were planning ongoing to Cran Hill Ranch in August, he was VERY excited!! Me too for that matter!
On a different note......this week has been exhausting......Each day there has been something I've had to deal with and by last nite....I was spent!!! I'm always sooo very thankful for my Fridays off!! So, the week started off by my boss being on vacation....and I went in on monday praying for more contentment and less discontent.....I will say this...it's a work in progress...I am a work in progress!!! Dont' get me wrong...in today's society, I'm thankful I have a job whether it's great or not is a different matter....so, Just know, as I complain in this paragraph....I still am acutely aware of my blessings that flow daily! So, here is MY week in a (big) nutshell....Monday: Karen is gone on vacation.....she leaves EVERYTHING in a mess, leaving me unable to find the information I need to get certain things taken care of...therefore, leaving more for her when she returns....oh well...nothing more I can do. I come home after answering rounds of questions regarding different patients and schedules (this always happens when Karen is gone...I am the next go to person...which I don't mind, I just wish I knew what all the answers were! But, fortunatlely, after a little digging, I was able to muddle through enough to satisfy patients and providers...I come home and MILO IS THE WHINIEST THING EVER!!!! I decided I needed a time out and went shopping while the boys worked on dinner (yes, I know, I'm spoiled). Tuesday: Working with a finicky doctor without the head honcho there...pretty much sucks....I swear he is moodier than a woman with PMS!! So, I came home stressed out that....but enjoyed the evening anyway. Jonathon was over and we were all outside the boys riding their bikes when the neighbor boy comes out with a WHIP! He's 8! What does his mother think?!?! Why would you give your 8 yr old a WHIP!??! Good grief. The boys aren't too fond of him already b/c he talks about having a ninja knife in his room that he could kill people with....UGHHH!!! When his mother returns from National Guard in 2 weeks, we will be talking!!! Anyway, I know that poor child just wants love and attention.....but it should be coming from his house, not mine!
Wednesday: I woke up, took my shower, attempted to blow dry my hair, when the hairdryer started smoking and went to the trash! But, work was good, love working with Peg.....no moody drs around today!! Got home, asked Dan to throw the clothes from the washer to the dryer, and then I was informed that the washer isn't spining and the clothes are sopped!!! UGH!!! Then my mom and Jonathon, along with tthe 4 of us, headed to the Whitecaps with fireworks! It was a fun evening and the boys were well behaved and Dan had a lot of fun with them! Thursday: brought the kids to moms, was going to stop at Starbucks for a morning treat of decent caffeine, when I realized that I forgot my wallet in the backpack from the nite before, so I headed home to grab that, knowing I wasnt' going to have time to go back to Starbucks...walked in the house to find that the DAD (dumb a** dog) had gotten into an almost full bag of trash! (*&#($(#!!! I just grabbed my wallet and left...to frustrated and out of time to do anything about it! Bad day at work...in fact I've demoted myself...from supposed "Office Manager" to "office coordinator" b/c office managers....RUN AN OFFICE......and I don't b/c some people want to control everything. So, all in all, not a whole lot of contentment, though the praying has helped me immensely to realize my job is just that ....a job....so, today, I enjoy the time with the little guys, clean a little and write ALOT!! hehehe
Oh yeah, I got a letter yesterday from Catholic Central High School (from that job I applied for) and they let me know that though they appreciate my time sending in my resume, they aren't interested at this time....blah blah....I figured as much, though I'll be truthful and say that I was at least hoping for an interview. But, I know God has something in store for me, right now it's at Catherine's......And I'll keep praying for more contentment!
have a wonderful weekend!!!

Friday, June 27, 2008

Summer Time

Where does the time go?? It's been another month since I've posted!! Yikes! We have been one busy family lately!! Egan is finally finished with Soccer, though I'm sad that it's done! And to answer the question that is on your mind, NO, I will not be coaching again...assistant coach...possibly...we'll see. Milo has taken great fondness to soccer also and Dan and I decided to sign him up in the fall and Egan too! Milo has to do everything Egan and Jonathon do! It's pretty funny to watch him try to be a big boy too!
I've been working a little more lately too.....Dan has been in charge of picking up the boys, where ever they may be on a given day! They have been going to St. Al's childcare 2 days a week and my (crazy but awesome) mom and dad have been taking them the other 2 days a week! It's nice for Jonathon too then he has someone to play with! And it saves on our pocketbook too! Which is my favorite thing!
The kiddo's went to VBS at St. Al's last week...even Milo could go too! He was VERY excited about it...on MOnday.....Tuesday- Friday the fondness had worn off and he became quite shy! Though once he was there, he was fine.....Friday though, he decided to hang with him mama and memaw, which was great! Then they sang songs on Sunday at church! They did an amazing job! They pick those songs and motions up SOOO quickly too!! Sometimes though, being at St. Al's reminds me so much of Alana.....envisioning her up there this year brought tears to my eyes! She would be going into 6th grade in the fall...can you believe that? I truly cannot even imagine it! I look at Jono and can't believe what an awesome little boy he is today and can't help but think how proud his mommy and sissy would be right now!! Sometimes my heart is heavy......
Well I sent my resume out to Catholic Central HS this week! It was in the bulletin at St. Al's on sunday that they are hiring an assistant attendance secretary....(can you see me in this position...giving kid's a hard time about being late?? hehehe). Anyway, I decided to be pro active about my work situation, since it really hasn't improved to much. We'll see what happens but I'm keeping my eyes open for something else! I really like my job but the problem is, I really don't know what my job description is.....receptionist...office manager, babysitter...(ok, I know it's not that but....) My point is, I really don't have a job description and it's starting to wear on me after 3 years of just kinda biding my time and 'floating'. I also have no time off....paid that is. And truthfully, this is probably my biggest pet peeve. Add in the other things I found out this week, and it leaves me in a discontent sort of state. (Natalie helped me come up with that word, and it seems to fit most appropriately!)...So there you have it.....my work life in a nut shell.....
I'm confident that God will lead me into the right direction whether that is to stay and be satisfied with where I am or opening a new door for me!
Ok, so enough about me (though no guarantees there won't be more about ME later...lol!)...I have a few prayer requests......First off, Marcy (my cousin's wife) just finished her 5th round of Chemo and had a PET scan done recently and guess what......She is cancer free at this point in time!!! How awesome is that!! What a miracle! The plan is to still continue with the rest of Chemo but I am sure it's a HUGE sigh of relief for her and Kevin.....so, please continue to keep them in your prayers. Also, my friend Helen, lost her father about a month ago.....and her grandfather just passed away this past week! Please pray for her and her family! This is a rough time for them! Thirdly, my friend Alicia's husband did somthing to his heel/achille's tendon on tuesday and needed surgery yesterday. he's doing well but it's his right foot so he isn't supposed to drive and will be laid up for about 4-6 weeks or so then a walking boot for a bit too....so, pray that Alicia won't lose her mind with everything else they have on their plate. They seem to be taking it all in stride and know that God is faithful, but it is still a rough time for them as well!
Lastly, EGAN picked up Jonathon's 2 wheeler yesterday and just started to ride it!!! YAHOO!!!! He can officially ride a 2 wheeler!! So, he'll be getting a new bike in a short little while! And of course Milo wants to ride too....so Dan got Egan's OLD little bike with training wheels on it and he's off too!!! They are growing up sooo fast!!!!
Love to all!

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

I'm a soccer mom...

First off, where does the time go??? It's been over a month since I've posted.....geesh.....I know you all have been waiting for me to post....you can admit it...it's ok!! lol!
You know, as a woman, you are many, many things........I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, KINDA MOM...(jonathon's new name for me...isn't it adorable?!?), auntie, co-worker, teacher, taxi driver, maid, cook (sometimes), coach, child of God, volunteer, scrapper, manager....the list can go on and on! I remember thinking in my younger days (like REAL young days!) how I was going to be my OWN person, married with children or not......I was not going to be the mom that waited on her children and defined herself by what housework she did that day or how many dirty diapers I changed. I've grown up, gotten wiser and though I LOVE being a mommy and wife and all the other titles that come with it, There is more to it than just being a mommy! But any way you look at it, it's the most rewarding job anyone can have!! I admire the women that can have 17 children with one on the way, who home schools her all her children, but God knows, I couldn't do it, I admire my friend who has a 2 young children at home and gets up with her husband to make him breakfast and pack his lunch, but God knows, I DON"T do that...lol! God has shaped us into the women that we are and it doesn't mean there is only one way to be a great mommy! I feel like I'm a better mommy when I work outside of the home a few days a week, and venture out with some friends for coffee...(if my girl friends are reading this...we are WAY overdue), or lock myself in a room and scrapbook for a day! And though there are days that are so chaotic and tiring, I wouldn't change it for the world!!
So, speaking of my children, Egan and Jonathon are almost finished with school!!! As Egan told me today.....6.5 days left....Oh my goodness....I have an almost 3rd grader!!! He is getting so big!! I love having conversations with him about life or kids at school!! He's growing up to be a sweet little man! Of course, he is completely annoyed by his little brother though! Milo seems to get a kick out of pushing Egan's buttons....It's kinda funny to watch!
So with less than 2 weeks of school left....it seems to be just a free for all fun time! It is driving me bonkers......just to let you in on how much they are NOT learning the last few weeks....no school on Memorial day, regular day Tuesday, Whitecaps with Fr. Den on Wednesday, Thursday is bowling day, who knows what on Friday....next monday is field day, and wednesday they have yet ANOTHER field trip to Dwight Lydell Park and Friday is a 1/2 day....I think we should get a break on tuition for the last few weeks of school! No uniform days, all these field trips etc.... am I just being crabby?? Ok, I probably am...but still, don't you think it's a bit ridiculous?? If you don't agree, you can keep your comments to yourself!! hehheehe
Speaking of being crabby......the honeymoon is over at work. I've worked at Catherine's for almost 3 years...and have loved 99.9% of it!! I absolutely love love love my job, everything about it. I truly believe this job is a gift from God! However.....(yes, there is a BUT!!), lately I've been feeling underappreciated and just plain grumpy about some things at work!! (Yes, I know, probably PMS'ing but still, I think I have some valid complaints....I think....or maybe not??) The Executive Director has been out in left field lately....doesn't pick up her calls, passes the buck on some big issues and just like leaves the office without telling me where or when she'll be back. Pretty bad when her husband calls me today and I told him she wasn't here, and I didn't know what to tell him...by the way, her husband is pretty needy lately too.....calls all the time!!! I know, I shouldn't complain, but it has just been stressful lately and I'm not sure if there is an end in site?!?! I just need to keep praying and giving it ALL to God.....
Ok, another complaint while I'm at it....there is NO stoppin' me know!! Watch out!! hehehe....
We have a cat and a dog...and we have a cat and a dog too many....and before you say anything, I FULLY realize I'm the one that NEEDED the cat and brought the dog home....I know, I know.....what was I thinking.....Had I been able to see into the future......I wouldn't have begged for the cat and felt so bad for the dog....but hind sight is 20/20, right? But back to my complaining.....our cat (who I will say is the sweetest cat I've ever met....) is a puker.....I don't often use the word puke b/c it just doesn't sound as pleasant as 'throw up', however, we are now 10 years past the pleasantness, and my cat is a puker....and yes, it's as disgusting as the word! The cat, over the last 9.5 years...has puked on MANY MANY things, for example: computer keyboard, down the heater, countless clean clothes, rugs, carpeting, bedding...like just freshly washed bedding....scrapbook pages, and yes, the last one, really really pisses me off!! So, our cat is on it's last life out of 9! It is now and has been on prednisone for about 4 yrs (since I was prego for Milo and whenever the cat would puke, I joined in!....and that is NOT funny!!...for me anyway). So, the cat has been better but still has issues. I gave my husband ONE week to get this cat shaped up or else....and yes, I really mean, or else!!! My friend, Natalie, is VERY sick of me crabbing about the cat, she would never say it, but she's not an animal lover to begin with, so I KNOW she's tired of my crabbing...)Last nite was the LAST straw!!! The cat had been puking all weekend, and Dan cleaned it up (b/c if you noticed earlier, that is not something I define myself as.....poop picker upper maybe, but NOT puke cleaner upper...not even my own children!! ask anyone who knows me!!) anyway, the trash was full yesterday, full of cat puke that my wonderful husband had cleaned....and then the dang dog gets into the trash...and I come home from work with 2 hungry, crabby kids, and voila, welcome home mommy!! Trash everywhere and CAT PUKE!!!! ok, really, this is way more than I bargained for!!! So, I calmly called Dan and told him in one week, if the cat is still puking......then.......yep, it's used up all 9 lives!! Dan is the martyr here....'come on, give him one more chance'...he gives more chances to this LOVELY puking cat than our own children...WHY?!?!?!?! I know I'm probably all talk, but seriously, it's disgusting and I'm tired of it!!! My house does not NEED and animal making more of a mess!!! my children have that job down pat!!
I'm hoping tomorrow will be a better day?! I know it will be a better day!!! (I can be optimistic at times!) Thanks for listening to my ranting!
enjoy the beautiful weather!!!

Thursday, April 24, 2008

I miss you Melissa Jo and Laney Jo!!!

It's very hard to believe, but today is the 3rd anniversary of the girl's death! Egan couldn't believe it either, he kept trying to correct me by saying it was 2yrs ago....Time has a way of getting by all of us. Jonathon, who has been soooo incredibly brave and strong, has been having a hard day today. It made me stop and think about what HE is going through, not just about me. I cannot even begin to imagine what that little boy is going through! I sometimes forget everything he's been through and just 'lump him in' with all of us....we all miss them and think about them DAILY, but it was HIS mommy and sissy....I look at Jonathon now, he's so tall and getting bigger everyday...1st grade now....Melissa would be so proud of him and the little boy he's become! I know Laney would be proud too!! I just finished reading the book Mistaken Identity, about the 2 girls from Michigan, who were in a terrible accident and one was spared from the wreck, but there a mistaken identity for over 5 weeks...It's an incredible book written by these 2 equally incredible families! Their love for God is amazing and refreshing to see that other people feel like we have as a family. Placing your trust in Him, when there is nothing else to trust! After 5 weeks of taking care of a girl they thought was their daughter, only to find out their daughter died 5 weeks prior....there was no anger or resentment, just sadness, and a strong love for Christ! God teaches us things daily, most of the time I think we just take it for granted or don't even realize what He has done for us....but if you stop and look at the big picture, you see some of His many miracles. Whenever the sun shines it rays through the clouds, I always smile and think of the girls...because even though, those were some of my darkest, darkest days, there is always a few rays straining through the dark clouds, showing us, that God is there helping us through difficult times!! Yes, I miss them sooo terribly much, yes, I would trade anything just to see them and hug them and see them with Jonathon.....ANYTHING I would trade....I know that our God is an awesome God, and we will see them again....Jonathon will see them again......and they are sooo happy now...no tears, pain or stresses of life! I can see Laney dancing for Jesus and Melissa with that awesome smile on her face that she always had when she looked at her children...PRIDE....she has that permanently now! I've realized a lot of things...Grief is a very private and selfish thing! Everyone has their own way of grieving....I have different ways of grieving....complete sadness, lots of tears, laughter and I get very grumpy around certain days...(birthdays and today!)
I have to say that it truly warms my heart when I see how many people recognize 'their' days....my friends and extended families that sent cards, gifts, emails and prayers! Some people say nothing for fear of 'upsetting' me or making me cry...but the realization is, not a day even a moment goes by when I dont' think of them and it's ok to talk about them and cry or laugh! Not talking about it doesn't mean it's not thought about...sometimes reality is a harsh slap in the face...but then what? You pick yourself up and get ready for the next sunrise and sunset and know that you got through another day!!

On another note, I just found out this afternoon that a very dear friend of mine got a phone call that has changed her life. Her father fell off of something (details are sketchy at this time) and has died. Please pray for my friend, Helen and her family!!! Helen was a life saver after the girls died, she took care of so much and was my brain when mine had escaped for sometime! I can only imagine the heartache and sorrow that they family is going through right now and I know she would appreciate any prayers you send their way!!

On a lighter note, since this is MY blog, I thought it was time to talk about ME (some more!) lol! I have decided that I need to learn and incorporate a new word in my vocabulary...NO! I talk about how busy I am...with classes, working full time being on the board at Egan's school...etc...and what do I go and do....ADD MORE!! UGH!!! What was I thinking??? Egan decided to try soccer this year instead of Baseball. They were short 2 coaches....but oh well...right?? NOPE! One parent stepped up and well.....I prayed about it.....and then I stepped up.....I know what your thinking...NICOLE....a soccer coach....yep, quite comical don't you think?? So many things are wrong with that....ONE, no idea how to play soccer...other than NO HANDS....TWO, well, do I really need another reason....I think one is a pretty good reason why this is SOOO WRONG!!! Well, 1st practice was tonite....I thought I was prepared for 13 little 7/8 year olds...THOUGHT being the operative word here! Thank goodness another mom stepped up to help me!!! It didn't go to bad, glad the 1st practice is over with...but we have a game on Saturday! I can see it now......all of them running for the ball, none of them passing it and they will all be tripping over themselves!!! I've decided that I prefer baseball. Much more organized and controlled!!! Everyone for the most part, stays in their position and does their job.....but SOCCER....oh crap...they run everywhere.....no one knows what to do and NO CONTROL! Egan said it best today when I was surfing the web to learn different positions..."mom, there are 2 positions...kicker and goalie...that's it...what's hard about that?" hmmm...sounds easy doesn't it? Please also pray for me!!! that God will give me the knowledge and patience to get through this!!! And I promise, I'm working on how to say NO next time!
May God bless you as much as He has blessed me!

Friday, April 18, 2008

SPRING!!!

I don't know about you, but I LOVE this weather!!! It puts an extra spring in your step.....having the windows open in the house, daffodils blooming...ahhh....spring!

I just was thinking that it's been a while since I posted on here, so, since it's Friday and I have the day off, now is the time!! I didn't technically have the day off though....I had a meeting to attend but it only lasted an hour and they fed us lunch....so, did I work? No not really.....but I did have to shower, and dress appropriately which is not something I do on a regular basis on Fridays!! Milo slept in today til about 10am!! That never happens lately!!! I love it when he sleeps in b/c he is in such a great mood!! He's smiling and dancing and tells me he loves me 'soooo much'! I'm thinking he's enjoying the spring too....except for his little nose!! We are now all antibiotic free in our household!! THat is a big deal around here lately!! But, I think he's going to have fun with allergies!! His poor little nose just likes to run constantly and he doesn't like the taste of his allergy medicine which makes it harder for me!! Trying to coax a fiesty 3 year old that it will help him feel better....OY!!! Let's just say, it doesn't work too well!! though, today it worked b/c I bribed him with a cup of coffee. Yes, you read that right...coffee.....my little 3 yr. old is already addicted to coffee! He likes his own "little white cup" and likes it with cream...no sugar though! IT's pretty funny watching him drink his coffee....and before you think of responding negatively (I know what your thinking!!! I used to think that too!!) caffeine doesn't have the same effect as it has on us.....it's different for kids, plus there is NO sugar, so it's all good, just relax and smile thinking how cute he looks with his 'little white cup' of coffee! and no I don't give it to him everyday.....usually happens about once a week or if we have company over and I make coffee in the evening...Dan and I joke that he's going to go to kindergarten with his own travel mug of coffee and skip the milk at snack time!! hehehe...(if i'm not worried about it, you shouldn't either!)

Egan as I mentioned before was diagnosed with ADHD, I've heard people refer to this as special needs....which is not really how I've thought about any of this.....I'm don't think of him as special needs, we treat him (love and discipline him) the way we would any of our other children and dont' let him get away with anything b/c of this diagnosis. After MUCH thought and prayer (along with MANY people giving us their opinion) on how we should treat this, we've decided to try medication to see how (or if) it will help him. Our main concern being EGAN!!! I don't want him to hate school b/c he can't focus or struggle with life b/c of this...and frankly, if a simple little pill can help eliminate these issues, why not try it. So, we talked it over with Egan, told him what it was that he was diagnosed with and he agreed that he doesn't like the way his 'brain just makes him do things', and was agreeable to trying medication. His main concern...how will the pill taste? I have to say, he's been on meds for about 2 weeks now...and I CANNOT BELIEVE THE DIFFERENCE!!!!! We decided not to tell his school/teacher we were going to do medication, b/c I wanted to see if she noticed a difference before she found out. At a speical meeting with the teacher and principal and Fr., she raved at what a difference Egan was making in class, his organization, he's doing great in math and staying focused etc....so, we told them that he did start medication. I have to hand it to the teacher (yes, I have MANY issues with her!) she praises him daily about how he did on math, reading etc. You can just see the difference in Egan b/c of the meds and praise, he's just a happier little boy and he even told me that he's glad that the meds are helping his brain b/c he's nicer to his little brother! So, I'm sooo thankful and relieved that this is working for him and that HE sees a difference too!!!

On a different note, we did receive some sad news this past week....my cousin (actually my cousin's wife) was diagnosed with stage 2B hodgkin's disease. Marcy started chemo on Wednesday and has to have 11 more treatments (once every two weeks)...so please pray for Marcy and Kevin...They have a great attitude towards everything, so I believe that is half the battle!! They are relieved to actually know what they are up against and are relying totally on our Gracious God!

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Strep Throat...

Last weekend we had done so much around the house.....got things organized....it was a great feeling. But by Sunday nite, I was sooo incredibly tired.....but, ya know, being a mom, I had to get things ready for Monday, so I didn't hit the hay til after 10pm....actually closer to 11pm. I woke up Monday feeling icky all over, but I went to work anyway, figuring I was getting the virus that everyone else has had. I left work a little early, picked up Milo at childcare and we came home and I slept for like 3 hours!!! and it just got worse from there!! I didn't go to work Tuesday and I attempted on Wednesday, since we were to have a staff meeting, led by ME....but when I got there, they looked at me and said I should go home....that good eh? lol....anyway, one of the benefits of working at a dr.'s office....they had me do a strep test. I really didn't think it was strep.....I figured it was just drainage, etc and I just needed to suck it up! But, low and behold.....I had strep....so home I went....my dr,'s office called in an antibiotic for me in the afternoon, but I needed to be on the meds 24 hours before returning to work...so, I've been home all week except for Monday! I really don't remember the last time I felt sooooo horrible!! Usually if I get sick, I'm icky for a day, then back on my feet, this just took me straight down!!
I really can't be sick right now....I've got so much to do.....Egan's 1st Communion is a little over a week away, and Easter is right around the corner...I'm on a schedule!!!! But God, as usual, has His own plan and His own sense of humor!! The one thing that stinks when mom's get sick.....NOTHING gets done!!! Poor little Milo ate whatever he wanted all week for dinner....usually cereal, or yogurt, and my mom really really helped my out by picking up Egan everyday after school and not bringing him home til after dinner, when she was on her way to work....Luckily, Milo was very good for me!!! He laid in bed with me, rubbed my cheeks and said, "whoa mommy, your cheeks are HOT!", then would say "you're my best friend mommy, I hope you feel better!" awww....how sweet is that!!!! He is a little honey when he wants to be!! lol
So, today, now that I"m feeling more human (even though I havent' had ANY coffee this week!!!) we had a lot to do!! Egan needed to get a cavity filled today after school, then the boys DESPERATELY needed hair cuts before Easter.... I'm praying that everyone else stays healthy!!!! I do not have time for that!!!
The kids have a gospel CD that they love to sing along to.....kid's worship or something of the sorts....anyway, the song, Blessed Be the Name was playing tonite as I was making dinner (yes, I made dinner tonite!!) and as I'm singing along to it, I realized what the words really were.....God gives and He takes......we have that on the girl's stone at the cemetary (they share a heart....Jonathon picked it out)! It always amazes me how many times a day something comes up and I think of them....my sister and my niece.....there really is not one single day that I don't think of them!!! Laney LOVED to sing worship songs, and I'm sure that was one she would belt out in the car!! God Gives, God Takes, His name be ever blessed! amen! I know I wrote about Laney last week when it was her birthday....but what an awesome day that was.....a beautiful spring day, hardly any clouds, and SOOOO many people that loved her and want to remember her!!! It just really warms my heart to still think about that!! I know that us as a family will never ever forget that fateful day when they died.....but we are, and will always be to some extent, in a box....where at times, everything stands still and it all seems like yesterday....some people don't say anything for fear of us remembering what happened, but what they don't understand is that there is NO time we DON"T think about it...and that it warms our hearts to know that you still think about them too!!! Their funny giggles, or silly things my sister used to say, or how much you miss them.....or other moments in time.....and it's ok if we laugh or cry...it's reality and sometimes (more than not) reality is harsh.....but there is nothing we can do about it EXCEPT put our TRUST in God and know they are in a MUCH better place and we are biding our time til we see them again!!
Lent is a time of remembrance....a time to reflect on what Jesus went through...his sacrifice he made for you and me.....so, the boys have been talking about Lent at school and how Jesus' sacrificed himself for us. So, out of respect for that time, we should reach out and help others, better ourselves and maybe give something up during Lent to remind us of what Jesus did for us. This year at school we did several things for Lent.....the kids were having a money 'war' to raise money for the Devos Children's hospital.....pennies counted as 1 point and silver or dollars counted as negative points...counteracting the pennies. Each class had their own 'jug' to put their pennies in, or they could sabotage the other classes by putting in the silver or dollars. It was a pretty fun competition that ended today...with me scrounging for any and all pennies in our home...which I can safely say, we are a penny free home at this moment in time!! They also collected stuffed animals (new or gently used) to give to the soldiers in Iraq to give to the children...we raised over 400 animals (there is only 77 children in the school)!! So, we as a family, decided to give something up that makes our life easier or that we've become to accustomed to. So, with a little coaxing, we decided to give up fast food!! And let me tell you, it definately makes my life easier, one those nites I get out of work late, and have a meeting to get to in 1 hour!!! Or when I'm just to tired to think about making anything for dinner!!! The kids have been awesome with it too!!! I'm the mean mom that tempts them, just to see what they say....(I never said I'd win any Mother of the Year awards!!) so anyway, off and on I would just throw it out there that we should go to Mc Donalds or Burger King....then they would say NO MOM!!!!! WE CANT"!!!!! wow....thank you....you've made me a proud mama!! hehehe. But the most important thing about lent is remembering the ultimate sacrifice....and however your family remembers that is up to you, but I think our kid's are getting the grasp of our Great Father up above!!! Happy Easter!!!!
Have a great (what's left of it) Holy Week!

Friday, March 14, 2008

Happy 11th Birthday Alana Jo!!!

WOW!!! Laney Jo would be 11 yrs old today!!!! Next month will be the 3rd anniversary of the death of Melissa Jo and Alana Jo! Three years seems so long ago at times...especially when I look at how the boys are growing so big!! But then three years seems like yesterday when I think about that phone call.....and I was in the "Eye of the Storm". My mother in law gave me a book after the girls died....called "In the Eye of the Storm" by Max Lucado. It took me a few months before I felt like really reading anything, but when I did, I was so glad!!! It's an AWESOME book and I still reflect on that from time to time....today being one of those days! Max talks about that one moment in time when chaos hits, and your world turns upside down and you don't know where you are, much less what to do. So, when your world turns upside down, pick up a book by Max...any book, you'll be glad you did!! (and no, I don't get commission for writing this...lol!)
Today has been a day of reflection for me. Also an emotional day. I've been pretty stressed lately! And yes, I'm fully aware I need to give it all to God...I'm working on that...really!! Anytime there is a birthday or the anniversary of the girls, I get very emotional, and easily stressed.....also, it's no secret that we are not happy with things at Egan's school right now. Add a few little "normal" stressers (sp) into the mix, and whamo...So, Milo and I went to a friend's house for the afternoon, so he could play, and I could get some 'chick time' in! The funny thing is, I was reading my Faith Magazine this morning (for all you Reformed people, it's the Catholic version of the Church Herald...lol) there was a man in there talking about how lately he's been unhappy at work and thinking that God wants him to do something more with his life. The priest that responded made some very good points...."discernment may take a while, pray for grace and be thankful about your daily work and through prayer, open yourself to God's direction. If you are TRULY called to different work, God will help direct your path....discernment may take time.....patience is the key". WOW....whamo.....ok, it wasn't like whamo for me....I read it with my morning coffee, then after lunch was driving to my friend's house....then came the whamo....I'm going to digress for a moment, but will make a full point by the time I'm done digressing (I promise!!)...ok, so I've been wishy washy for a bit now with Egan's school. Very unhappy and just not sure if we should put him in a different Catholic school or a Charter school or WHAT???? I go back and forth...ask Dan and ask my mom...it's been bad....yesterday I was thinking .....that's it, we're pulling him out and he's going to St. Anthony's!! ok, so then the whamo...(I'll try to stop using that word....) it hits me.....HELLO!!!! Discernment....things didnt' go bad in that school over nite.....the problems are not going to get fixed over nite.....I had the guts and cared enough to go to the board (with another mom), I need to give SSPP a chance to fix this....I dont want to change schools for Egan, He likes it there and has lotsa friends too! The article also said...."God has put you hear for a reason".....I wonder what that reason is...but that's because I'm a control freak at times (Gee, I wonder, is that where Egan gets it??) and feel the need to know EVERYTHING, but whatever the reason... we're here. I"m going to try the patience route and give the school a chance, knowing full well that it may and will take some time....but I'm willing to give it a shot!! that being said, I talked with Dan tonite about my whamo moment....and though he was also thinking about pulling Egan out, he thought I made some very valid points....(smile!!) and since I put it that way, we do need to give it a chance! Yahoo for me!! lol! ANd I've got to tell ya, DO I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER about things now!!!! My stress has been lifted and I feel free!!! ANd I ALWAYS think, "why didn't I do that sooner?????" HELLO!!!??? I'm a slow learner sometimes!!
But back to Laney Jo....beautiful, funny, queen of cursive Laney....did we have a birthday party for her today!!!! Kareem (Laney's dad) and his family and all of our family met at the cemetery today and released balloons up to heaven and the boys each picked out a balloon to keep at the cemetary, then we went to Joe V's tonite for dinner.....it's tradition....I would have to guess there was about 30 family and friends there tonite!!! Kareem had a cake too! It was quite the celebration of her short little time here on earth!!! Man, do I miss that little girl!!!! She was quite the little girly girl and though I'm biased, I know, if you would've known her, you would've thought the same!! I'm so thankful for her 8 years we had with her....from the moment she was born, I knew she was an angel!! Alana Jo, I love you like the rainbow loves the sky!!!

Friday, February 29, 2008

It's Friday!!

Well, I now have a 3 year old....Milo turned 3 on the 20th! He is just so dang cute! He's been holding up 5 fingers and saying he's 'free'. lol! And potty training has gone very well thus far. He still has a couple issues at childcare...but since it's only 2.5 hours a day, we have just been putting him in a pull-up for now. Though lately he's been saying he doesn't like pull-ups....which, truth be told, I don't like them either.....he doesn't act any different in them then he did in his diapers. It drives me crazy!! Though he loves childcare lately....he calls it 'kool' (for school) hehehe.
Last weekend was a crazy weekend.....we moved bedrooms. Soooo, Dan and I moved into the kid's playroom, Egan moved into our room and Milo stayed put. But what a chaotic MESS it was!!! OY! But things are definately organized now and I LOVE our bedroom now!!!! I didn't think we'd have as much space...which wasn't a lot to begin with, but.....it seems like we have so much MORE space now!!! did I mention I LOVE our bedroom?? LOL. Flylady says your bedroom should be your oasis....a place to go and relax, but frankly, I disliked our bedroom A LOT!!!!! so it was never really organized, never really my 'oasis'.
Egan is in 7th Heaven with his OWN room!!! And again, there seems to be so much space for him too!! Even with his toys, animals and books. I woke him up last Monday morning and he was already awake, he looked at me with a big grin.....and said, "I love my room mom...thank you!" awww.....I really think he needed something like this to call his own!!! Milo has been doing very well too except for last nite. I had to play Super Nanny on him.....I think he was testing the waters with me. Which is really hard on me because of several reasons: a. he's so dang cute b. he touches my cheek and kisses me and says he "yoves" me c. I'm exhausted after working all day, making dinner, doing homework, baths and bedtime stories d. I would LOVE to cuddle with him and sleep with him. You take your pick, they all are good reasons oh, but there is one more......It's just so much easier!!!!!!!!!!!! But, in the long run, I know this could definitely be a problem...especially on the weekends when Dan is home and I really do need some time for myself at nite so I can write on my blog.....or do homework for my poor neglected classes!!!
Sometimes I think I'm crazy for trying to work 32 hours and take care of my family....I get home and it's rush rush rush......and with Dan working 2nd shift....I don't have the help that I could use to keep me organized and less stressed!!!! I really don't know how single parents do it!! I always admired my sister for that....she was very organized her house was usually always clean and she was always on top of stuff. I remember cleaning out her house with my mom after she died and realizing how super organized she was. She made it easy for us to clean out her house. And I remember thinking how horrible it would be to have to clean mine out!! LOL! clutter in certain areas.....yikes!!!! So, I strive to be like her.....one thing I've gotten down pat is her yelling. With all her good mommy traits she had....boy, did she yell at those kids! they totally didn't seem bothered by it...obviously used to it....Laney just used to shrug when I would tease my sister and say she yells to much.....I however, have that trait myself......and I'm not sure when it started but I know that is NOT a trait we got from my mom....she is soooo soft spoken!
But I digress.......I've come to the realization that I really love my job and we really could use the money right now....we really want to be debt free SOMEDAY?!?!?! So with that in mind, I just need to "suck it up!!" Mamma always said there'd be days like this! lol!
It's now Friday though, and I have the weekend to relax a little bit....little....bit....and get my ducks in a row. We have our annual Burrito Dinner and carnival at school tomorrow. Dan and my dad are working in the kitchen with my uncle (it's his 'world famous' burrito recipe). The kids are excited to play some games and win some (cheesy) prizes....so it should be a fun day!! Hopefully the weather will cooperate.
I've babble enough for now......and since the kids are sleeping, I think I will take a shower....I've wanted to all day today, but I was running around getting things done today on my day off and it never happened! Ahhh...the life of a mommy! never ends does it? lol!

Monday, February 18, 2008

Boys....

Well my littlest boy is turning THREE on Wednesday...I truly cannot believe how big he is and how fast time flies!!! We had his party for him yesterday afternoon with our family. He had such a great time and was soo cute opening his presents!!! He made sure to thank everyone too! He's been playing with his Magnetix and his a, b, c puzzle from Jonathon and Memaw K. made him his very own pillowcase with the alphabet! So, all in all it was a great day!!! First thing he asked for when he woke up today....'piece of chocolate cake, mom'....hey, he's only 3 once right....so let him eat cake!! lol! Nothing like a piece of homemade chocolate mayonnaise cake first thing in the morning....
Right now the boys share a room.....so when Jonathon spends the nite, there are THREE wild boys in ONE bedroom. Not to mention the fact that Egan doesn't have anyplace to call his own......and Milo is a wild man at nite.....keeping Egan awake by playing around and doing whatever Milo does to annoy his big brother....so, after some thought.....Dan and I decided to move our bedroom downstairs into their playroom and give them their own rooms. Egan is very excited about this and has been talking about this non stop....but we'll see how Milo does. I think it will be good for Egan though. He's going through a rough patch right now. School is kinda hard for him this year...his teacher isn't NEARLY as structured as last years teacher (whom I miss dearly!!!!) I'm also very frustrated this year. The school Egan goes to is a very small school....less than 100 kids. It's also a private school, which means we pay alot for tuition (though, not as much as some schools). THe part that is most frustrating for me is the fact that his teacher has 12 kids in class and can't get it together! Egan missed a day of school a little while back and when I asked for homework for him and went up to school to get it....it wasn't ready...then the teacher said she didn't know where they would be in math for that particular day, so she'd give it to him later...HUH???? Lesson plans??? HUH???? Also, he tends to be a little slower with finishing his work at school...so instead of having him bring it home for homework, she makes him stay in for recess....and today for example, he had to stay in for all THREE recess. This is something I DO NOT agree with. If he's having trouble staying on task, maybe that's a sign that he NEEDS to go out for recess and run his little butt off?!
So, he's been not staying on task at school (per his teacher) so we decided to get him tested for ADD....though my intent wasn't to get him on medication right away, if at all, but to see where he needed extra help and help him....well, turns out the little guy is ADHD....I have a hard time with "labels" per say. Though I think it's good to know where they stand....but...i dunno...I talked with the psychologist today about some things that may help him stay focused...know what she suggested....NOT STAYING INSIDE FOR RECESS....huh....great minds think alike don't they...lol
So, Egan has conferences this thursday and my goal was to talk with his teacher about the recess thing among other 'things' but guess what.....she wants the KIDS to LEAD conferences.....HUH??? 2nd grade!!!! What about concerns that the parents have???? Am I outta line here to think that this is NOT appropriate??? If so I'm sorry but I think it's outta line....and frankly lazy on her part...which i think is the main part of the problem...lazy......So, I'm torn here...I feel like we are getting him through the year just to get it over with...and we are paying alot of money for that.....which aggravates me to no end....
I'm just torn....thanks for letting me vent!!

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Oh Snnnooow!!!

Gotta love Michigan!!! I'm starting to wonder if it will ever stop?? I'm praying they will not have another snow day tomorrow!!!! This mommy is tired of them!!! Childcare is closed if the schools are closed, which means I have to sneak out of work way early for Dan to get to work on time!! then I come home, and the kiddo's are bouncing off the walls.....and they've already watched to much tv by the time I get home.....oy! But I know, this too shall pass! I feel a little melancholy with the snow....I LOVE how it looks (especially when I'm inside!! lol) but it's kind of a pain and I don't really do any winter sports.....I think Milo is going to be like me....Egan LOVES the snow and begs to go sledding every chance he can.....but Milo man....welll, he LOVES summer and you cannot keep him in when the sun is out and it's a beautiful day...and there is NO snow...but he really doesn't care for the cold! He played outside at childcare today (he's been going for about 2.5 hours in the afternoon before I get out of work), and when I got home, I thought I should shovel a bit so that Dan wouldn't have 15 inches to shovel tomorrow....(now he only has 10 inches...hehehe....aren't I a nice wife?! lol). SO I thought it would be fun if the kid's got bundled up and 'helped' me shovel snow....Milo's response "no mommy, I too cold outside, I stay inside"....ok.....I think that sums it up!
Milo is in LOVE with his nuk...aka...mute button....however, he's down to just ONE that he will take....his blue one, he will not TOUCH another one.....which is hard b/c one little nuk is hard to keep track of.....and this time, it's been gone since Monday evening when he decided to be funny and throw it at the boys (Egan and Jonathon) instead of going to bed....so I KNOW it's in their bedroom SOMEWHERE....I just don't know where.....Last nite he didnt' even ask for it, but tonite, might be a little tough.....he's been downstairs 2x now in the last hour wondering about that wonderful mute button....Man...believe me...I WISH I knew where that thing was!!! Tomorrow I start the search, however, I will still hide it as long as I can, but it gives ME security knowing where it is and that i can plug him up if need be!! Does that sound bad? oh well! hehehe
He has (since Friday) been doing a great job going on the potty!!! The little stinker has been 'trained' for a while, just NON COMPLIANT!!!! that has been my favorite word to describe the bugaboo.....b/c he truly is NON COMPLIANT...about everything...what he wears, or doesn't wear (example: tonite is the 1st nite in 3wks I've actually gotten PJ's on him), last week for church he didn't want the cute sweater and navy blue pants...NO...."I NO LIKE SPEATERS MOMMM" (I didnt' type sweater wrong...that's how he says it...lol), so then I asked him what he did like: "My muckey (monkey) shirt mom". So, guess what he wore to church....yep, muckey shirt and jeans and he was a happy camper. This is the child that really needs to go to a parochial school b/c I need him in a uniform so there will be no fighting about what he'll wear toschool!!! and did I mention....he's NOT EVEN 3!!!!! oy!
Super Bowl Sunday, since Dan was going to the VW's (we missed you Sunday ALicia!!!) I decided to bring the boys to my aunt's house. This is my dad's sister and we really don't see that side of the family (they are a little wacko...lol...SO UNLIKE ME!! lol) (your not laughing are yoU?) ANYWAY, her and her new husband (who really is a wonderful man!!) were having a party, and my family was going so, I thought what the hay...I new my cousin would love to play with the kids and it was food I didn't have to prepare (which is a huge bonus for me...I hate making and deciding dinner EVERY nite....I'm not very domesticated...thanks a lot mom!!LOL). So, we went. My aunt was diagnosed with MS quite some time ago and has for the most part done pretty well, however, she has gone blind. This happened about 2 or 3 months ago. This is not a symptom of MS....she was misdiagnosed all those years ago....I can't think of what it is she has.....sorry....but anyway, they don't know if she will regain eyesight....I've known this for a while, but like I said, we aren't that close.....yes, I've been praying for her but not really THINKING how this is effecting her....until Sunday. She is doing very well, there were lots of people there and she looked so cute sitting indian style on her big comfy chair in her brown velour warm up type suit! I brought Milo up to her when we got there, and she was touching him all over...it was cute, but Milo didn't think so...(ya know, he's very particular and all....) my aunt just laughed and when I told her he looked kinda like my dad and brother she got this huge grin on her face....But I cannot stop thinking about her!!! She has definately changed...she seems more sincere for sure. She kept asking about ALicia's little boy and how they were doing as a family and how Gavin was doing...and never anything about her or how horrible this is....which is how that side of the family is. I keep thinking about all my favorite things to do....drive, walk, read, scrap book, play on the computer, watch my kids grow and learn.....EVERYTHING I need to do with my eyes!!! She said when she first went blind she could still see light.....but now its' completely black all the time. I just want to cry when I think about it!!!I've decided that I need to be a part of her life more and help her however I can! I"m taking these classes on line and I was looking at what other classes they had (this was last nite) and I saw a class on how to read braille!!!! I'm seriously thinking about taking it and teaching her.....then at least she'd have somthing to do....READ!!! I'm going to talk to her and see what she thinks.....I have Friday's off so I can find some time to do it....I just thank God for all of his blessings He has given to me and my family and friends. Life is not simple, that's forsure....but He helps us find a way to cope and live and even be happy when tragedy strikes...as it often does.
I read ALicia's blog tonite (if I haven't said it, she's the inspiration of this blog) she was talking about how GREAT her son is doing!! I'm soooo happy to hear this!! I know she gets frustrated at times, and really no one can really understand what she's going through, just like my aunt. I also know that people don't understand what my family has went through with the tremendous loss of my sister and niece.....and the ironic thing (is ironic the right word??) is that what is even harder for some people to understand, is how we are able to COPE with these 'things' that are hard to understand. I truly believe God gives you the strength, power and wisdom to lean on Him, trust in Him, when there is nothing else around to lean on or trust in except HIM!!! I've been saying for over 2 years now how AMAZING GOD'S GRACE IS!!! When we sing that song in church I can't get through it without tears b/c of the truth in that song!! I also truly believe that without Him, you cannot ever get through/over whatever life's difficulties!!! I cannot imagine traveling through life on earth without Him!!
God Bless....

Friday, January 25, 2008

Things that make you go "hmmmm"

I had planned on posting a few weeks ago...but just didn't get around to it.....I had my surgery on my ankle to remove my hardware, and things are pretty much back to normal. I still am wrapping my ankle because of some swelling, but other than that, I feel great!! I went to my follow up appt on Wednesday and made Dan go with me because I was a bit neurotic about getting my stitches out....I know, I know, silly!!! but still, I was nervous...which ended up being for NOTHING because they were disolvable (SP)!!! can you believe it!! Figures....just goes to show you that you shouldn't worry about things to happen, because it just might NOT happen!!! I'm such a dork that way!!! I should learn something from this, but I 'm sure the next time my neurosis will get the best of me again...soon!!!
We have new neighbors next door to us....they moved in a couple weeks ago. The old neighbors moved out the day before the new ones moved in. I have been praying about this because our old neighbors have been wierd lately and I was praying that we would have someone who was a bit more laid back and not so, well, let's just say 'crabby'!! lol! They (the new neighbors) seem very nice and the most exciting thing is they have a little boy who is 7....just like Egan!!! I'm excited to have them meet....but of course, Michigan weather in the winter isn't always cooperating....it's been so cold, we really haven't had a chance to talk with them. Dan did for a few minutes but then needed to thaw out! lol! So, going with the title of the blog today....one thing I do not understand (and yes, I'm a mrs. cravitz, but I"m ok with that!! LOL) is the neighborhood we live in is 'decent', Ya know, working class I guess you could say....ANYWAY, they buy this house for my guess is way below what it was appraised at (again, old neighbors acting weird).....and do you know what they drive??? Ok, let me back up a minute, If you haven't ever been to my home, we have a shared driveway with these neighbors, we live right in the city (meaning, not any land....small yards) and it's a one stall garage they have. The old neighbors needed more space because they had FIVE cars at any given time on the street, driveway, garage....it drove me nuts living on city street with parking on both sides...but I digress....ok, so do you know what they drive??? and keep in mind, (I'm showing my age here) they are YOUNG!!! like mid 20's or so....ANWAY, they have THREE vehicles!!!! HELLO!!!! and not just any vehicle....NICE, EXPENSIVE VEHICLES....lets just say, what they have spent or are spending on vehicles, probably matches what they paid for the house!!! HELLO!!??!?! They have a newer Mustang, a Yukon Denali and a CADILLAC!!! ok, ok, ok....not my business, I'm fully aware of that, except we do share a driveway with them.....and keep in mind it's a one stall garage..so I know what youre wondering...where are they parking all their cars.....I'll tell you.....in the back yard....yep, you heard me....their back yard!!! OMG!!! Have I mentioned my many neurosis' yet?? If not, I'm sure you're starting to get it...lol Dan laughs at me all the time....that I need to let things go....I do...TRY....I TRY to give all my anxieties to God and pray about this constantly, but some things just really make you go "hmmmmm....how bout that!?" and you have to agree, this is one of those times!!
Ok, enough about that....happy thoughts Nicole.....lol....I got a raise at work this week! Yahoo!! Every little bit helps ya know! And I absolutely LOVE my job and the people I work for and with! It really is the best job EVER!!!! I work for a not for profit Free Clinic, which sees patients that are uninsured or underinsured. And its' a SMALL space right now for the amount of people we see.....about 20 patients per day, and we have 2 treatment rooms and 1200 sq. feet...and there is about 6 staff present at any given time and we have at least one volunteer at a time also...so it's tight quarters....thankfully, we all bathe on a regular basis...lol! HOWEVER, we will be starting a capital fund raising campaign shortly because we will be moving into a much bigger and needed location. Right now we are located in the basement of a church and the school located next to the church is combining with another school, so we'll be moving into part of the school!!! Oh, it will be soooo nice!!!
Well, I"ve babbled enough for now....ttfn

Tuesday, January 1, 2008

Happy New Year!

It's officially 2008! It's hard to believe another year has passed us by! Egan and Milo were watching Arthur on PBS yesterday, it was about staying up late and how 'cool' it is....so, Egan of course begged us to stay up til midnite. We enjoyed a nice quite nite at home, just the 4 of us. Dan made a WONDERFUL dinner (have I mentioned what a great cook he is??) for the two of us, and when I asked the boys what they wanted for their last meal of 2007...the both said "MAC and CHEESE"....much less expensive than a birthday boy we know....he wanted crab legs yesterday! Egan did ask us to make some shrimp also....but it was a great nite! Milo went to bed without a peep around 10pm and as wonders never cease, Egan made it passed midnite! yahoo for him....he said the coolest part was watching the ball drop! too funny!
Dan and I had decided not necessarily to make 'resolutions' but to try and make 2008....great! I am hoping to become more organized, of course, lose some weight, but mainly strive to be a better mommy and wife and grow closer to God!
Dan and Egan got me a plaque (for lack of a better word) to hang on the wall....it says: FAITH
makes things possible....not easy. Wow.....how true is that!! I cannot wait to hang it up and look at it every day to remind me of that! Just because we're Christians doesn't mean it's easy street....(trust me... I KNOW this) but it does mean sooo much more doesnt' it?? But to know that we will have eternal life......how cool is that! Milo just got a new Veggie Tales CD tonite and we were listening to it on the way home from The Family Christian Book Store....and one of the songs they were singing was something about one nite in HIS court, in HIS home is better than thousands outside!!! Jonathon and Egan were talking about Eternal Life the other day.....Jonathon was saying something about coming back to life, and Egan said we don't come back to life......here on earth.....we have ETERNAL (he emphasized this part) life in heaven....."right mom"....YEP! Sometimes it's hard to understand death especially when your mommy and sissy die when you are 4 years old......and sometimes you never quite give up hope that they will come back to us again.....but I explained to Jonathon and Egan that they won't come back here again, but some glorious day.....we will see them again....in HEAVEN! This must have still been weighing on Jonathon's mind quite a bit because when he got back home to my parents home and my mom was putting him to bed, he said he was going to ask Jesus to let him see his mommy and sissy again and that was all he wanted for his birthday! Oy! What are you supposed to say to that!? God has definately blessed my mom with a strong heart! She always seems to keep it together and explain things to him without losing it.....FAITH, makes things possible....not easy!
On a lighter note, I've been busy getting all the decorations down and put away and getting back to some sort or resemblance of organization....I use that term lightly...lol! However, I am determined to get organized this week/end!!! I'm going in for some minor surgery (having some hardware removed) next Tuesday and I'll be laid up about 2 weeks, and since it's my driving foot, I will really be laid up for two weeks and I decided if my home isn't organized by then, I'll go even MORE crazy!!! I don't think Dan and the boys realize this yet though......but they will soon enough!! lol! so, wish my luck!!